My journey began by noticing an advertisement for Super Soul
Sunday.
The seed was planted.; rather
than watching another reality show I made a decision to record Oprah’s Life Class
on Sunday. Now interestingly only one
session has recorded......I watched it.
Brené Brown was the guest
speaker and I loved what she had to say.
Now I have read her book, “The Gifts Of Imperfection”
before.
Some will smile here because it
was a book that came up in a book club for me and I had a resistance to reading
it. I can try and psychoanalyze the
reason....I will simply say.....at that point in my life I had read and owned
volumes of self help books...... all excellent.
Reading about my character defects or those tormenting
saboteurs of joy that rule in my psyche at times makes me feel even more
unsuccessful....especially when you already know.
So I start by asking myself a question.....what made me take
this e-course and why now? Two things
actually.... I became
aware of how much of a foothold certain “gremlins” Brené’s
word.....Saboteurs (my words) had in my life and secondly I was curious about
using art to overcome them.
(credit oneguyrambling.com)
Allow me to introduce to you some of my Saboteurs and give a
brief example of how they operate within me. Perhaps you may identify.
The Crappy
Comparer....shits on me – I must value and acknowledge my own specialness
I’m watching the Ricky Lake show on how to shop for a proper
bra. It is dealing with large busted
womens’ problems. The comparer is
stealthy and silent.....I actually do not realize for a very long time I feel
less than till the voice comes and says “if only you had”
The Snatching Thief
Called Worry.....steals my joy....I must guard my joy
Worry. Now I come
from the very best.....my Mother. When I
used to visit her, she would worry the whole time about when we were leaving.
Evident to the outsider but not to the actual person this
saboteur is very sneaky - like picking your pocket. You do not even notice your enjoyment is
missing.
The Worry Wrecker
.......contributes to wreckage....I must be a Prayer Warrior and envision
success
(credit fskitchen.blogspot.com)
Well versed in spiritual laws I know my thoughts contribute
to creation so when I do catch myself worried, I hold myself accountable and
change my thoughts. To quote Noelle
Oxenhandler in her book the Wishing Year, “The best worriers make the best
wishers”. This I hope to live up
to......far from perfect yet.....a work in progress.
The Carcass
Dumper.....creates a blockage by dumping the past into the future....I must
envision only success
A councillor in my past would say, "Shirley you are
dragging a dead horse" whenever I brought up someone’s past behaviour as an
argument. I wholeheartedly agree I do
this....actually I do even better than that sometimes. I take that dead horse and heave it right out
in front of me. It stops me in my tracks
as I don’t want a hurtful repeat of a past behaviour. This is actually a protective devise for
me. Sometimes I have figured out a way
to jump over the carcass....calculated manipulation but I never feel good about
the gains. Envisioning loving heart felt
behaviour now seems to be working and definitely is for the greater good. Thank you councillor.
The Suspicious
Shroud....darkens reality......I must shrug it off..... quit questioning....who cares.....accept and
enjoy the gift.
Oh! I am so good at this.
I wonder if when someone is doing something nice it is because they are
feeling guilty about something and not because they genuinely want to
please. A protective cover I have hung onto due to
past conditioning. What it protected me from I am not exactly sure, I wonder if
this is an off shoot that comes from a childhood teaching of not accepting
something because then you will owe them.
Or perhaps at times it was a guilt gift... who cares??? .blow off the bad energy of guilt and or
suspicion...refuse to take it on....give it as compost to Mother
Earth.....delight in the gift.
The Assumer.....makes
an ass out of me.....I must get off my dumb ass...and get grounded in the
moment and fact.
I still struggle with this one. Partly because I am never clear whether
someone’s past behaviour creates the assumption or is it intuition or is it just
plain fear.
Anyway I look at it .......my thoughts may be inappropriate
The Judge/
Executioner....death to joy and love.....I must give birth to love and live
Well years have tempered my black and white nature and I
believe I reside more in the open mindedness of shades of grey.....(interesting
how a book can actually influence the interpretation of language). My personal
journey is to avoid and break all bondages of suffering and pain. Sentencing imprisons me.
S(mother)......inhibits
the spark of growth.......
(okay....in my dreams....embellishment is allowed)
Pulverizing
Perfectionist....destroys my accomplishments by hammering on the slight
imperfection....I must focus on what was right.
(credit batgirl.com)
I have had many glorious accomplishments but somehow I can
only focus on the little mistakes. The
voice that says “I wish I had a” “If only I hadn’t”........my motto has been “
Being second means you are the first loser”.
It is a pretty big wielding hammer.
So there it would be.....an obvious reason to delve into the
wondrous joyful freeing gifts imperfection can offer me.
Leaving the throng of self defeating unhappy
perfectionists...is not easy. Vigilance is necessary.
(credit www.smscs.com)
I am ready to focus and enjoy those parts of me that are outstanding......
as well I am so ready to love and light up those parts of me that I am
uncomfortable with.
Dare to be vulnerable...Brené declares.
Have I gone too far with this blog? Oh well......or better yet....Brené suggests "Oh! Hell Yes!"
I am having fun being imperfect.
I am always a Work In Progress
OH! HELL YES!!
Information on Brené Brown's e-course is on the Oprah site.
Brené Brown’s Ted talk is
well worth listening to. Google Brené Brown Ted talk.
Hell No!!! you have so not gone too far
ReplyDeleteI love it
beautiful
vulnerable
honest
yes yes yes
bring it on sister
bring it on!
love and light